But not all women see the kinds of physical interaction with men you describe as insults to their dignity. I am sure much of this is generational, but regardless the fact remains it’s not obvious how far this 0 tolerance policy goes. Sexual contact requires consent. That is and should be clear to everyone. But most boys and girls alike have received awkward but non-sexual attention from affectionate relatives. Equating this with disrespect won’t ring true with the vast majority of people.

If the goal of #Me too is never feeling uncomfortable again, the entire movement will fail. That failure is only going to harm those who have suffered very serious physical and emotional abuse by men. By shaming decent men in the media for conduct upon which even women disagree and even the accusers claim didn’t go beyond discomfort, this movement will only alienate men who would otherwise be allies. Women should feel comfortable to speak up directly to the individual triggering their discomfort and we should work to make sure they can, but I don’t think shaming men on social media years later for making you feel uncomfortable is an honorable approach.

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