No, that is not what I am saying. My role as a family member or friend in such a situation is quite different than my role as a member of the public, a police officer, prosecutor, or judge. A relationship with a victim precludes the possibility of me sitting as either judge or jury, as it should. Furthermore, having a family member or friend involved in that way will only result in a dismissal of the case once the defense uncovers it. That is obviously not the outcome you are looking for here.

I am saying simply posting “this happened to me” on social media gives me no reason to either believe or disbelieve you. It gives me every reason, however, to support a thorough and independent investigation to determine the facts to the best of our ability. Insisting society take accusations on faith (i.e. belief), if followed to its logical conclusion, is to insist we disgard due process. Are you saying an accusation is enough to convict? If not, it seems to me you are not really asking the public (potential jurors) to believe accusers from the get go, but rather once sufficient evidence of wrong doing has been obtained. You are asking them to believe a crime may have been commited, which is a very different thing than asking them to simply take your word for it. “Believe women” is no more valid an argument than “belive men” or “believe priests”, even if it is a more well meaning one. I am saying believe in due process, which in spite of its flaws beats all the alternatives. I admit the system hasn’t always worked as it should, but the solution is to do due process better not assume an accusation equals guilt.

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